How to Develop Bulletproof Confidence

October 21, 2022

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Have you ever wished you had the courage to do something, but didn’t because you didn’t feel confident enough? We’ve all been there. Whether it’s asking for a raise, going on a first date, or applying for your dream job, a lack of confidence can hold us back from going after what we want in life.

But what if I told you that confidence is the key to success? That’s right, ladies—confidence is the cheat code to life. When you have confidence in yourself, you’re more likely to achieve your goals, no matter how big or small. And while building confidence takes time, it’s so worth it in the end. Trust me, I know from experience!

Why Building Confidence is Important

Self-esteem plays a role in every aspect of our lives. From our romantic relationships to our careers, how we feel about ourselves has a direct impact on how successful we are. After all, if you don’t believe in yourself, who will?

Think about it this way: if you’re applying for your dream job but don’t think you’re qualified, chances are the interviewer will pick up on that lack of confidence and give the position to someone else. But if you walk into that same interview with your head held high and exuding confidence, the interviewer is much more likely to see your potential and give you the job. It’s all about mind over matter!

How to Build Confidence

The good news is that confidence is something that is built over time. Start by challenging yourself to do one thing outside of your comfort zone each day. Whether it’s asking for a coffee date with a co-worker or signing up for that dance class you’ve always wanted to take, pushing yourself out of your comfort zone on a regular basis will help boost your confidence in no time.

Challenging yourself like this will help you realize just how strong and capable you are. It might be scary at first, but trust me, it’s worth it!

Give Yourself Grace

One of the most important things to remember when boosting your self-esteem is to give yourself grace. Just like it takes time to build muscle or learn a new skill, it takes time to build confidence. So be patient with yourself and trust the process.

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Be Willing to Fail

In order to boost your self-esteem, you have to be willing to fail—a lot. Failure is inevitable on the road to success. The more you’re willing to fail, the more likely you are to succeed. And each time you fail, you’ll learn a little bit more about yourself and what you’re capable of. So don’t be afraid to put yourself out there!

Positive Networks and Social Circles

Surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself. If you’re constantly around people who bring you down, it will be much harder to build self esteem. Find your tribe of supportive friends and family members and lean on them when you’re feeling doubtful.

Do Something You’re Proud Of Every Day

Last but not least, one of the best ways to boost your self-esteem is to do something you’re proud of every day—no matter how big or small it may be. When you take pride in your accomplishments, no matter how small they may be, it’ll give you a major confidence boost. Trust me, this one works like a charm!

Entrance of Chateau de Versailles. Near Paris, France at Sunset
Entrance of Chateau de Versailles. Near Paris, France at Sunset


If there’s one word of advice I could give to my fellow ambitious women out there, it would be this: never underestimate the power of confidence. A lack of self-esteem can hold us back from going after what we want in life, but when we start believing in ourselves, there’s nothing we can’t do!

If you want to achieve your dreams, find a fulfilling relationship, land the career of your dreams or simply feel good about yourself, having high self esteem is essential. Thankfully, boosting your self-esteem is totally possible—it just takes a little bit of effort (and some patience).

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